Rarely Unconditional
Almost every relationship is conditional, even the strongest ones fall prey to conditions; parents and their children, wives and their husbands, and even more so for fragile friendships.
As much as we like to walk the moral high ground and say “No matter what happens, he/she is my mother/father/child/wife/husband/friend and he/she will always stay so.”, the truth is that most of the time, it isn’t true. We are all human and we all want to be treated the same as much as we treat others. We bear grudges and we desperately hide them in the depths of our minds but the grudges never fail to rear their ugly heads in times of uncertainty and stress in the relationships.
It’s interesting to see the mechanics of relationships in a group of close friends. And the conditions of such a group and the direction that the group takes are usually set by one or two influencers in the group or by a majority. And in order to stay within the group, one has to agree or at least be neutral about it to be able to stay within the group. And more often than not, the followers within the group unknowingly have the sheep mentality and follow the general consciousness of the group in order to stay within the circle. It’s laughable but it’s a survival instinct. Stick together or be alone. We are all guilty of it at some point in our lives.
Lucky are those relationships that survive despite conditions and even luckier are those relationships that crumble due to conditions. Why so? Those that do crumble weren’t worth keeping anyway and it’s best to realize it sooner so that the time can be spent on those that really matter.
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June 5th, 2009 at 12:14 pm
can’t agree more to your last paragraph.
either you pull through together or the relationship falls apart – but it’s a good thing to realize that earlier as compared to “it’s too late now” scenario.
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June 5th, 2009 at 4:13 pm
@iammyy> It can be very dicey. When is it too early to say ‘it won’t work’ and risk having ‘what if?’ thoughts and when is it too late to result in one wondering ‘I should have…’