Tips On How To Tackle The Elusive Pretty Woman (Part II)
In the 1st part, I shared with you guys on how to get the 10/10 woman’s number. Now you have her number and she doesn’t have yours. Being in this situation, what would you do?
1. Call her immediately to see if the number is correct.
2. Call her that very night.
3. Call her the very next day.
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WRONG! Seeing is that she is a hot 10/10 woman, she probably got 10 guys or more who tried to pick her up that day. And let’s just be optimistic and say that 5 out of the 10 (including yourself) manage to get her number. How many of the 5 will call her within 48hrs? All the other 4 would, most of the time. But you! You are different, because you have been enlightened by krisandro and his crap!
Call her only after a week or slightly less. Why? Because, after 2 days the 10/10 would have gotten calls from the other predictable 4 guys. In the next few days, she would be wondering, “Hey, why didn’t the 5th guy call me?”. She may not think of you THAT often, but having just ONE thought, makes her think of you without you doing anything at all. By this time, her interest would have risen a little bit because you are different and a little mysterious. Do take note that it is also important to not wait THAT LONG. If you call her 5 years later, thinking that she will salivate over the phone for you, please wake up your ducking idea.
The next point might be harder to accept. We all know that most girls LOVE to chat over the phone. Most guys bank on that idea and try to charm a woman over the same medium as well. The truth is, studies have shown that ‘communication’ is 55% visual (body language & eye contact), and 38% is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice) and words you use are only a measly 7%.
What does this mean to you? It means that if you talk to her over the phone and you have PERFECT vocal skills and FLOWERY vocabulary and score a 100% on both terms, you will still fail on the overall. Because, the two terms I mentioned only make up 45% of ‘communication’.
The best thing you can do when you manage to call her is to do the following.
1. Say your name and hope that she remembers you.
2. Jog her memory a little if she doesn’t
3. Ask her out on a dinner date on WEEKDAYS. (Fridays count as weekends)
4. Offer a specific date and time.
5. If she agrees on that date, end the call politely.
6. If she disagrees, wait for her to counter-propose.
7. If she doesn’t, propose another day.
8. If she rejects it as well, end the call politely with no hints of calling back.
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Let me explain further on the few points. The reason why you only ask a woman out on weekdays for the 1st few dates is because almost everyone values weekends more than weekdays. Weekends are usually for close ones like family, friends or love interests. By asking her out on a weekday, you don’t threaten her plans and increase the possibility of her being free enough to go out with you.
The point of asking her out on a specific date and time is to show your confidence and to reduce her thought process. If you ask open ended questions like, “Hey, WHEN are you free ah?”, she will think about a lot more stuffs other than her schedule. If she rejects your first offer, pause and wait for her to speak. If she does counter-offer, it shows that she is genuinely not free and wants to offer another date. Lots of men try too hard and sound like,
“Tomorrow not free ah? How about Tuesday? No? Wednesday? Thursday leh? FRIDAY CAN? PLEASE?“
Of course she might not counter-propose and you should try ONE more time. But that’s it. If she still rejects your second proposal for a date and time, end the call politely. If you really want to try again, do it again after a week or less to show that you have determination but not desperate enough to call her the very next day.
If you played this right, and she agrees to the date and realize that she still doesn’t have your number after the call. Good for you! Call her again on that dinner date itself to confirm the date and give her your number, so that you don’t stand in the middle of Bugis Junction looking like an idiot. If she asks for your number on the 1st call, its okay as well. But now, she has some means to think about it and may reject you easily with just an sms.
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Scoring the 1st date is just a small step towards the goal of having her as your girl. I may blog about the “Do’s and Don’ts of Dates” when I feel like it. Meanwhile, you all can stutter and stumble your way around. :p
Oh and by the way, don’t hate the girls who say ‘No’ to you that early. Be grateful that you get rejected early than having her hover around and wasting your time with you thinking that you got a chance. Recognize the signs that she isn’t interested in you and move on.
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May 16th, 2008 at 10:35 pm
“Tomorrow not free ah? How about Tuesday? No? Wednesday? Thursday leh? FRIDAY CAN? PLEASE?“
This part is so true la. There was this guy who always tried to book me 1-2 weeks in advance… he would go,
Tomorrow lunch? No? Dinner? Tuesday breakfast? No? Lunch? Dinner? Er, supper?…. every. single. day.
He didn’t understand that girls who keep saying NOT FREE for every meal pretty much means NOT INTERESTED.
Think about him I wan to vomit blood liao.
May 16th, 2008 at 11:15 pm
I’m not sure whether this should be used on all potential targets you get in contact with..
cause I mean seriously, if people are not so ‘gum’ with you, I doubt the chances of them going out with you will be high.
Anyways, communicating doesn’t have a ‘pass’ or a ‘fail’, IMHO. It’s just like taking a 2 part exam paper; getting a ’45%’ in the first paper will only make your job easier on the second.
So to sum it up, I still prefer to go wols. (:
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May 17th, 2008 at 12:39 am
Wendy> Some guys still think tt method still works leh…actually sometimes it does.. DUnno y though. Its a thin line btn persistance and being an irritating duck
Dingo> This method was used on Caucasians. Now that we are more open and westernized, it should work here as well.
I agree on your 2nd pt, but its much better to be able to to see each other so that,
1) you win her over with sincere body language
2) you read her signs better
May 17th, 2008 at 9:38 am
Some guys get number and call one month later when I have absolutely no freaking idea who the fuck they are… This is very useful. Hope more guys read it..
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May 17th, 2008 at 10:41 am
Wah seh.. you sound like a playboy in the making.. or are you already one?
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May 17th, 2008 at 9:18 pm
He cannot be playboy lah.
Later his girlfriend…. *inserts*
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May 18th, 2008 at 11:27 am
nice entry.. so true on the communications..i love someone who can speak well.. but no flowery language pls. But some guys just dun get it.. they are way too persistent ( or simply too dense hehe) i usually just ignore them
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May 18th, 2008 at 12:23 pm
I don’t agree with this strategy 100%. You should call
May 18th, 2008 at 12:27 pm
I think if you have a deep sexy voice, you should initiate first contact via phone.
If you write wittily, you should email.
If you look smart and smells fabulous, you should bump into her coincidentally in a public place.
That’s how I would have done it anyway.
As for waiting/not waiting to initiate first contact, I wouldn’t wait, but I would make it casual. For example, instead of meeting up one to one, meet up with a group of friends.
May 18th, 2008 at 5:27 pm
THB> Yeah. Call too early and risk being labeled as desperate, call too late and risk being forgotten. The perils of skirt chasing.
Benard> Oh no dude. I am the perfect example of “I do not practice what I preach” and so, I am not a playboy. :p
winxp> KuKuNehNeh so g00t. she won’t do anything one lar. :p
Eileen (bean)> Thanks for the acknowledgment. Some girls do need some form of flowery language from time to time. And like all good things, too much of it makes it bad.
precious> I understand what you are trying to say. Play by one’s strengths. It may be easier to get ones email on the 1st encounter but that also means its not a good way to test her interest level.
And I know you feel differently, But i highly discourage group outings to get to someone you like. There is no way a guy can make a connection with the lady.
May 18th, 2008 at 8:28 pm
That’s why I’m glad to be married early… Dating games are fun yet tiring!!! =X
May 20th, 2008 at 11:09 pm
Dont mind i add some tips for guys.
When having a conversation with the 10/10 , always sound confident and pretend that you have many other 10/10 girls waiting for you. Because a girl can smell a despo guy miles away.
Also don’t compliment a hottie too much. They get good praises ever since the day they are born. If you want to praise her , always end with a little sting of insult. I say little means not so bad until she slap you in the face. Do that and you will get her attention.